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A TASTE OF WHAT YOU WILL FIND IN THIS BOOK!!!!!
General date sample
POEM SHARING DATE:
"Poems can be very romantic.
They might be able to express feelings, which you find difficult to put into
words. Libraries have books of poems that may help you. You can also watch for
poetry that is published in magazines and perhaps make a notebook of your
favorites. Then choose a special occasion. Pick the location such as, a grassy
shaded spot beside a rippling brook, a rock overhang looking out over a
valley, a canoe on a smooth pond, or on comfy pillows in front of a crackling
fire with a hot or cool beverage to sip as you read and listen. You just might
want to add some romantic music playing softly in the background. Then share
those intimate thoughts with each other"
Married date sample:
CANDLELIGHT BATH:
"This is a great way to relax after a busy day. Light scented candles in the
bathroom and bedroom. Have soft music playing. Use bubble bath or bath scents
when filling the tub. Have big fluffy towels and soft washcloths and scented
soap. Relax in the tub. It is a great time to communicate verbally and
physically. When it is all over, you feel relaxed, refreshed and happy to be
in love."
Here are tips for 8 great first dates which I found on MSN in an article by Margot Carmichael Lester. Thought you might like some starting ideas that sound fun.
#1: Art galleries and museums. This is good since there are external and immediate things to focus on for conversation which can naturally lead to information about your date. "Since it's free, nobody feels short changed if it doesn't lead to a second date"
#2: Baseball games. A major league game may be too expensive but tickets to a double-A or triple-A team might cost less then $10. Even if your date "isn't a huge baseball fan there is plenty of opportunity to talk during the significant down times".
#3: Minature golf. "It's cheap and it's a great way to let your guard down...And because it doesn't usually take a lot of talent you can always call it quits after the first game--or retire to the 19th hole".
#4: Unique dinner. "Having dinner at a good, but off-the-beaten-path restaurant can help you learn about each other..." you "can always talk about how you discovered the place--that's usually an entertaining story".
#5: A hands--on activity. Do something active for a first date. Things like taking a short cooking class or painting a pot can be fun and informative. Plus conversation isn't a must if your on the shy side. Suggestion; Don't choose an activity at which your particularly good. Let it be a learning time for you both.
#6: Poking around. Try meeting at "a bookstore, record store or flea market. Few other dates allow you to learn quickly the other person's tastes, preferences and interests."
#7: Give back. If you normally do an activity such as volunteering at a soup kitchen or community project why not suggest you do it together? This will also give you time to talk to each other and get acquainted.
#8: Be subversive. If your a daredevil this might be just the thing for you. Something like crashing a party, put up protest posters, something wild but harmless. "One caution-- try not to get arrested."
Is there "Love Over 40"?
I found an article with this title again on MSN by Randy B. Hecht with some very interesting insights. How many of us feel that just yesterday we thought it really funny to see "old geezers holding hands or kissing in public." But today at an older age we "can't figure out what the hell was so funny?"
Today baby boomers are at mid--life and some of us are now asked if we can get the "senior discount". But one thing is much different for us today then for our parents. "in our case denial is a wonderful thing" In the generation before us the slogan for those of more advanced years was "I've fallen, and I can't get up" For us today it might be more acurate to say "I've fallen wall-climbing, and I need a little arthroscopic prodedure done so I can go skating again". We call this "chronological existentialism: I think I'm young, therefore I am".
Just like the young many of us are out there looking for LOVE! The numbers tell us there are more like us out there then ever before. Therefore since we have always done everything we have dateing options that widowed, divoriced single older people before us didn't even begin to imagine. We are not about to "settle for less then we want...Our youth and our youthful attitude--is a long way from evaporating"
What we need is to get out there where we will meet people like us also looking for companionship, romance or love. "Love keeps you young at heart, and from the looks of things, our hearts have no plans to go into retirement any time soon. Why should they?...some of us may look back on our 20's and 30's and realize they were just a warm-up, a prelude to the real deal" I like this quote from the same article "let's not say we're getting on in years. Let's say we've been practicing youth for a long, long time and that must mean we've gotten pretty good at it by now. The calendar may tell us it's been 37 years since that Summer of Love, but we older singles haven't played out our season of romance just yet!"
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